Talking about failing to even start today. What holds you back? What are the factors that keep you from even taking getting far enough down the road to even feel stuck? Fear This is the biggest of all and encompasses just about everything that makes you not even want to jump off the diving board into the pool of cool success. Fear of Results But we want results right? Yes, we do. yet many times those results can be scary to think of. Some people are afraid of what’s going to happen to them if and when they become successful. What if success changes you what if you become fake? All of these different want ifs that happen in our minds but never happen in real life. Fear of Change The very act of changing scares people. That lizard part of your brain starts to activate and you are suddenly on the lookout for saber-tooth tigers and other unforeseen hazards. So, it is better if you were just staying in your cave and not come out. Of course, that means you will starve. Yet you are at least safe. Fear of Upsetting Others We worry about what others will think. Again we may lose some friends or be talked about behind our backs. Well, who wants that? Nobody if they allow others to control their feelings. You would be surprised to find out that most people who matter in your life will cheer you on. While those who don’t provide value to your life will talk. Yet again since they don’t provide any value they don’t matter in the grand scheme of things, which is your life. Fear of Failing We fear to fail. It could ruin us or cause problems. Maybe you fear people will talk or something to that effect. And that could happen more than likely they will see you get back up and ignore the fall. What the fall means is only in your mind. The Skateboarder My son when he was young wanted a skateboard and so we got him one. Several Months later, He wanted to go to the skate park and try it out. So we took him to the local park and it took him a long time of trying to go down the halfpipe before he finally attempted to go. What was holding him back? Fear Why does this happen? Overthinking the situation Most of the time, it is over thinking of the situation How to Jump Some tips on how to jump and go ahead and get started. Make a plan Planning is good Set goals Goals are needed for you to know how you are going to proceed to Talk to others Get tips and tricks on how to navigate your path by talking to others who have gone down that road before you. Get a coach You can also find out how to achieve your goals and success by getting coached.
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The concept of Growth mindset and it’s counterpart Fixed mindset comes from Stanford Professor Carol Dweck Ph.D. in her book Mindset. In this book, she talks in detail about what each mindset is and give example after examples of people who display both sides. From Dorothy Delay the violin teacher from The Juilliard School of Music to Jack Welch, the man who saved General Electric. Carol talks about key points that exemplify why a growth mindset is needed if you want to succeed and why the fixed mindset often causes you to have a meltdown like Bobby Night on a losing streak. What is a growth mindset A growth mindset is a mindset that you are more about the ability to get better than having something of natural talent. It is interesting to think we are born with a growth mindset and then we slowly settle into a Fixed mindset. You see babies who keep trying to learn how to walk and we celebrate when they are able to start wobbling around. You even see a child who finally figures out that...
his week talking about the opposite of the abundant mindset in Episode 14. That is a scarcity mindset and the problems it can cause in your efforts of being successful. We all have problems with negative thinking. Those negative thoughts are normal and have a purpose but they don’t serve us as they did in the caveman days. We use to not have enough and we had to fight for all that we had. Today that is still somewhat true but now scarcity is an element that holds us back. It keeps us safe and when being safe we are never growing emotionally or in knowledge. What is scarcity mindset? The scarcity mindset is seeing the world and your resources as being a zero-sum game. You are only allotted a certain amount and then when you are out it is gone. Stephen Covey talks about this in the “7 Habits of Highly effective people” and says this, Most people are deeply scripted in what I call the Scarcity Mentality. They see life as having only so much, as though there were only one pie out ...
What is an abundant mindset? People with an abundant mindset feel freer to give and share because they don’t see that the resources in their life are in scarce supply. They have the motto of There is more where that came from. Often people who aim for and achieve big goals are people who have an abundance-oriented mindset. Because they aren’t worried about what they don’t have, abundant mindset folks are generally happier and easier to get along with they like to take people on their journeys and include more people in their success because they are not limited in what they can do. More control If you have an abundant mindset you aren’t worried about how it is out of your hands. They will take what they have and use it to the fullest extent possible. They approach jobs with more gusto and enthusiasm because they are eager to see the results of their endeavor and don’t worry as much about what won’t happen. When they do fail, they take responsibility for their actions instead ...
For today’s #TuesdayThought is centered around how much we show the world how much we don’t knit by starting what we do know.
This weeks #TuesdayThought is centered around understanding. So often we want others to understand outside before we even have the whole story. We pontificate our views and any other view is irrelevant.
If you want someone to understand your view why not listen first to their side. We do have two ears and one mouth. Which tells me we need to hear twice as much as we speak.
